There is nothing more exciting than preparing for your first date.
I always enjoyed it! It was the anticipation of meeting someone new, the idea that this one can be ‘the one’, or just looking forward to getting out after a hard weeks’ work and get to some good times. (At least with the hope that it will be!).
So here are some pointers to help you get out the door looking and feeling great:
1 – First Impressions Do Count
The most important thing to remember when getting ready for your first date, girl or guy, is to remember that first impressions really do count. You want your first impression to be the best it can be, so be sure to take your time and plan what you will be wearing and make sure you give yourself enough time to get ready. There is nothing worse than feeling rushed and showing up that way. It doesn’t make a good first impression.
2 – Hair and Grooming
I can’t stress enough how good grooming is a must. (Dating or otherwise!). Bathe, shower, shave (there is another one that is usually mentioned but I won’t go there). Be sure to have prepared ahead and colored your hair (if you’ve got some grey), straighten it, curl it, whatever it is that you do to it that you feel looks best for you. A simple trim or just shampoo and conditioner works too if you don’t need the extra grooming. Nothing is worse than meeting up with someone who hasn’t bothered to clean up and do his or her hair!
3 – Make-up
This is obviously geared to girls so just skip this one if you’re a guy. Make-up should always look as natural as possible. Look at pictures of any Hollywood star and you will see that a natural looking face is what is most complimentary. Depending on the venue, you can bold up the colors or layer more make-up on, just remember to keep blending until it doesn’t look like anything is on. One of the best natural cosmetics out there today is Bare Escentuals, which takes very little time to apply and really helps to make your skin looks flawless.
4 – Venue
Where will you be going? Ask your date ahead of time where you will be going so you can decide what clothing options you have. If it’s dinner at a fancy restaurant, then that black skinny dress will do or if you are planning on a more casual venue that may have a lot of walking, then you have appropriate shoes to consider as well.
5 – Clothing
Although a black skinny dress for a fancy restaurant will do for some of us, the question is, will it do for you? If you don’t usually wear or own a black skinny dress then by all means DON’T try it out now! Wear whatever is appropriate for the venue you are going to but always be sure to wear something that is comfortable for you. You might look dynamite in a short skirt but if you don’t normally wear one and don’t feel confident in it, then it will show. There is nothing worse than someone walking tentatively or continuously adjusting his or her attire during a date. It takes away from the conversation and makes you look more anxious than you really are.
6 – Perfume/Cologne
Ladies and Gentlemen can I say less is more? You don’t need to stink up the place to make your first appearance. Smelling nice is good but don’t overdo it. Essential oils are lovely and smell very natural with some really sexy and sultry scents, while other synthetic perfumes and colognes smell just well….. synthetic and the more you put on the worse it smells. So, just a little dab here and there (and be very creative as to where) and your date will thank you for it.
7 – Booze & Sex….Pace Yourself!
That says it all I think. Nothing wrong with booze or sex on your first date just be sensible about both.
If you have a drink that you know gets you drunk or too tipsy to control yourself, then it’s best to sip it slow or just avoid it altogether. Remember, it’s your first date and you don’t want to be slurring your words when you speak or unable to focus on your partner while he/she is attempting to get to know you better. Drink lots of water in between and pass on the shots of the tequila for your first Tête-à-Tête.
In terms of sex, I suppose in the end it comes down to what kind of a first date you are on. Are you just looking for a good time or something more long lasting? General rule of thumb is if it’s just for a good time, and you are both willing and consent to it, then by all means fornicate on and have sex any time you please. If you are looking for something more serious, then you may want to hold off getting intimate until you have had a chance to get to know them better. There is nothing worse than feeling like you blew it because you went all the way and regretted it the next day. Besides, not having sex on your first date leaves you excited with the anticipation of seeing them again real soon and if they are interested, they will call!
8 – Cell Phones & Blackberry’s
Nothing’s worse than being interrupted by some vibrating (and I mean the really WRONG kind) or an annoying ring right in the middle of a conversation. Now, I do know that girls have a traditional ‘get me the hell out of here’ telephone call to get them out of a bind (hell guys may have it too), but I think you will know within the first few minutes whether your first date is someone you want to enjoy the rest of the evening with or not. If you’re not sure, then by all means, leave the cell phone/blackberry on and wait for your escape but, to be fair, if you like your date then turn it off and put it away. It’s the classy thing to do. Messages can wait, you’re first impression will not.
9 – Timing
Don’t be late! Although it may be acceptable to be late during any other type of function, being more than 5 minutes late with your date mate is actually very disrespectful. If you are running late due to bad timing, traffic, and parking or otherwise, be sure to text them or call them on their cell phone to give them a head’s up and your ETA.
10 – Be Yourself
Nothing is worse than trying to pretend to be someone you are not. I know first dates can be intimidating and you may really like your date and you really want them to like you, but think of it, don’t fool yourself and don’t fool them, it can only spell disaster and heartbreak in the end. For example, don’t tell them you’re into kinky sex when you’re not, it might be fun to try out in the beginning, but it can be really difficult to admit you’re not later on.
I always enjoyed it! It was the anticipation of meeting someone new, the idea that this one can be ‘the one’, or just looking forward to getting out after a hard weeks’ work and get to some good times. (At least with the hope that it will be!).
So here are some pointers to help you get out the door looking and feeling great:
1 – First Impressions Do Count
The most important thing to remember when getting ready for your first date, girl or guy, is to remember that first impressions really do count. You want your first impression to be the best it can be, so be sure to take your time and plan what you will be wearing and make sure you give yourself enough time to get ready. There is nothing worse than feeling rushed and showing up that way. It doesn’t make a good first impression.
2 – Hair and Grooming
I can’t stress enough how good grooming is a must. (Dating or otherwise!). Bathe, shower, shave (there is another one that is usually mentioned but I won’t go there). Be sure to have prepared ahead and colored your hair (if you’ve got some grey), straighten it, curl it, whatever it is that you do to it that you feel looks best for you. A simple trim or just shampoo and conditioner works too if you don’t need the extra grooming. Nothing is worse than meeting up with someone who hasn’t bothered to clean up and do his or her hair!
3 – Make-up
This is obviously geared to girls so just skip this one if you’re a guy. Make-up should always look as natural as possible. Look at pictures of any Hollywood star and you will see that a natural looking face is what is most complimentary. Depending on the venue, you can bold up the colors or layer more make-up on, just remember to keep blending until it doesn’t look like anything is on. One of the best natural cosmetics out there today is Bare Escentuals, which takes very little time to apply and really helps to make your skin looks flawless.
4 – Venue
Where will you be going? Ask your date ahead of time where you will be going so you can decide what clothing options you have. If it’s dinner at a fancy restaurant, then that black skinny dress will do or if you are planning on a more casual venue that may have a lot of walking, then you have appropriate shoes to consider as well.
5 – Clothing
Although a black skinny dress for a fancy restaurant will do for some of us, the question is, will it do for you? If you don’t usually wear or own a black skinny dress then by all means DON’T try it out now! Wear whatever is appropriate for the venue you are going to but always be sure to wear something that is comfortable for you. You might look dynamite in a short skirt but if you don’t normally wear one and don’t feel confident in it, then it will show. There is nothing worse than someone walking tentatively or continuously adjusting his or her attire during a date. It takes away from the conversation and makes you look more anxious than you really are.
6 – Perfume/Cologne
Ladies and Gentlemen can I say less is more? You don’t need to stink up the place to make your first appearance. Smelling nice is good but don’t overdo it. Essential oils are lovely and smell very natural with some really sexy and sultry scents, while other synthetic perfumes and colognes smell just well….. synthetic and the more you put on the worse it smells. So, just a little dab here and there (and be very creative as to where) and your date will thank you for it.
7 – Booze & Sex….Pace Yourself!
That says it all I think. Nothing wrong with booze or sex on your first date just be sensible about both.
If you have a drink that you know gets you drunk or too tipsy to control yourself, then it’s best to sip it slow or just avoid it altogether. Remember, it’s your first date and you don’t want to be slurring your words when you speak or unable to focus on your partner while he/she is attempting to get to know you better. Drink lots of water in between and pass on the shots of the tequila for your first Tête-à-Tête.
In terms of sex, I suppose in the end it comes down to what kind of a first date you are on. Are you just looking for a good time or something more long lasting? General rule of thumb is if it’s just for a good time, and you are both willing and consent to it, then by all means fornicate on and have sex any time you please. If you are looking for something more serious, then you may want to hold off getting intimate until you have had a chance to get to know them better. There is nothing worse than feeling like you blew it because you went all the way and regretted it the next day. Besides, not having sex on your first date leaves you excited with the anticipation of seeing them again real soon and if they are interested, they will call!
8 – Cell Phones & Blackberry’s
Nothing’s worse than being interrupted by some vibrating (and I mean the really WRONG kind) or an annoying ring right in the middle of a conversation. Now, I do know that girls have a traditional ‘get me the hell out of here’ telephone call to get them out of a bind (hell guys may have it too), but I think you will know within the first few minutes whether your first date is someone you want to enjoy the rest of the evening with or not. If you’re not sure, then by all means, leave the cell phone/blackberry on and wait for your escape but, to be fair, if you like your date then turn it off and put it away. It’s the classy thing to do. Messages can wait, you’re first impression will not.
9 – Timing
Don’t be late! Although it may be acceptable to be late during any other type of function, being more than 5 minutes late with your date mate is actually very disrespectful. If you are running late due to bad timing, traffic, and parking or otherwise, be sure to text them or call them on their cell phone to give them a head’s up and your ETA.
10 – Be Yourself
Nothing is worse than trying to pretend to be someone you are not. I know first dates can be intimidating and you may really like your date and you really want them to like you, but think of it, don’t fool yourself and don’t fool them, it can only spell disaster and heartbreak in the end. For example, don’t tell them you’re into kinky sex when you’re not, it might be fun to try out in the beginning, but it can be really difficult to admit you’re not later on.
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